My debut burlesque performance to Chaka Khan “Tell Me Something Good”
Days leading up to the night I was hard on myself thinking that my costume nor my choreography was enough, however after watching myself on video (which is VERY hard to do) I now feel otherwise. I’m very proud of myself for making my entire costume by hand and coming up with decent choreography that the crowd enjoyed. Thank you for watching!
apparently it’s nineteen fucking twenty
I fucking hate it when guys do this shit.
Working in a tool shop, this is basically my life. (Except we don’t fix things, but I’m often passed over for 19yo boys who don’t even know how to do basic life shit.) It’s amazing how many ‘tradespeople’ don’t have a fucking clue about what you need to do even the most basic of jobs.Source: nikaalexandra
300 pages of tumblr in a week. I caught up.
God it’s so hot here. I need a better fan.
“You’re crazy – that never happened.” “Are you sure? You tend to have a bad memory.” “It’s all in your head.”
Does your partner repeatedly say things like this to you? Do you often start questioning your own perception of reality, even your own sanity, within your relationship? If so, your partner may be using what mental health professionals call “gaslighting.”
It is an extremely effective form of emotional abuse that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity, which gives the abusive partner a lot of power (and we know that abuse is about power and control). Once an abusive partner has broken down the victim’s ability to trust their own perceptions, the victim is more likely to stay in the abusive relationship.
There are a variety of gaslighting techniques that an abusive partner might use:
Withholding:the abusive partner pretends not to understand or refuses to listen. Ex. “I don’t want to hear this again,” or “You’re trying to confuse me.”
Countering: the abusive partner questions the victim’s memory of events, even when the victim remembers them accurately. Ex. “You’re wrong, you never remember things correctly.”
Blocking/Diverting:the abusive partner changes the subject and/or questions the victim’s thoughts. Ex. “Is that another crazy idea you got from [friend/family member]?” or “You’re imagining things.”
Trivializing: the abusive partner makes the victim’s needs or feelings seem unimportant. Ex. “You’re going to get angry over a little thing like that?” or “You’re too sensitive.”
Forgetting/Denial: the abusive partner pretends to have forgotten what actually occurred or denies things like promises made to the victim. Ex. “I don’t know what you’re talking about,” or “You’re just making stuff up.”
Gaslighting typically happens very gradually in a relationship; in fact, the abusive partner’s actions may seem harmless at first. Over time, however, these abusive patterns continue and a victim can become confused, anxious, isolated, and depressed, and they can lose all sense of what is actually happening. Then they start relying on the abusive partner more and more to define reality, which creates a very difficult situation to escape.Source: http://www.thehotline.org/2014/05/what-is-gaslighting/
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